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Love and Hate Love and hate, that’s what creates our fate. You never know what you get yourself into until it’s too late. U say u luv me, is this true? How do I know I can trust in u? I’m no strager to heartbreak and if anything that is what I hate. I want to luv u and I want to trust u but this emotional wall is strong and I can’t put it down because I’m the weak one. If I let this wall down, will u be my rock will u be there to help me up will u be the one I can trust will u be there when I don’t say you must? This is a tricky risk I will make please don’t let me think that this was a mistake I will love u and trust u I will be loyal and kind to u because do I love u This is what love and hate will do When I put my trust in you When love, hate and heartbreak comes together it will create fate

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Are you feeling relieved after divorce or cheated? After many divorces people feel happy while in many rather more cases they feel cheated. Why? Divorce it self is a very painful process and the times that lead to divorce are more painful. The question is why get the sense of feeling cheated after getting divorce? Let us talk about this.

Relationship demands giving - People give a lot to their marriage; most of them do it except few. Right from the development of relationship, a lot of time, emotional energy and physical resources are given to make it work. During marriage the investment goes higher. Most of the partners want the marriage to work. There are exceptions that unbelievably want to destroy because of psychological problems. When cracks develop in the marriage, lot more effort is made to save the marriage and when the marriage breaks after putting in so much effort, one feels cheated.

Is this true for all? This is not true for all. There are few individuals who don’t give anything in marriage. They ask for it. The demand and contribute nothing. That is the game of selfishness played by them. So these people will never feel cheated. They will only feel bad that they lost an easy victim.

What should you do? The only way out is to forget the losses. Try to erase the past as much as possible. This will be difficult, but break the pain bit by bit. Work on it and it will go away one day. Try to forge another relationship and forget what went wrong. Cut your losses as soon as possible.

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A wedding is a special time that means a lot to the bride and groom. It is also a time when there is a lot of different planning to be done and there should be no room for any mistakes to be made. A lot goes into every detail, however one detail may be forgotten and that is the problem of wedding crashers.

A wedding crasher can be an unexpected wedding guest that no one really knows. This is a person that is looking for some fun and would like to do so at your wedding. They will usually be nice people that mean no harm and are just looking for a good time. When this is the case, you can have a lot of fun too.

There are certain people that are called wedding crashers and they are not so nice. They are the people that you want to keep out of your wedding because they are looking to wreck your special day and make it a nightmare. These people need to be watched for so that they can be kept out and kept silent.

The bad wedding crashers can be anyone from an old boyfriend to a crazy family member that wants to ruin the wedding all together. These are the ones to watch out for because they can turn a beautiful day into a complete disaster. Getting married is stressful enough without having to worry about who wants to make it a bad memory instead of a good one.

You may also get the wedding crasher that wants to steal your money and other gifts. If you see someone that is out of place, keep an eye on him or her to make sure that they are not there to steal from you. This would be a terrible way to start your new life together.

Wedding crasher that is fun can be a real enjoyment. These are the people that will sing, dance, and be the life of the party. They will be the ones out there on the dance floor living it up and getting the rest of the wedding guest excited too. These types of people will be a dream to your wedding and if they are not hurting anyone, let them alone. Chances are they are just out for a good time and there is no real harm in that.

Getting a wedding crasher at your wedding is not that likely. They are in fact very rare and if you do have one attending, chances are they will be the good kind. The one thing that you should do is keeping an eye out for anyone that looks different. If they stand out in the crowd or bring a lot of attention to themselves, this could be a hint.

The tradition of the bachelor party may date as far back as the 1800s. The stereotype of a bachelor party is a last night of debauchery for the groom and his friends before the wedding but in more recent times soon to be grooms are looking to less traditional activities to mark their final days as bachelors. While there are still would be grooms, who opt to spend the last hours before their wedding partying with alcohol and female exotic dancers, many men are choosing a less traditional route such as camping trips, sporting events, daredevil activities and even co-ed bachelor parties that include the soon to be bride and her friends. These types of activities are much less likely to get the groom in trouble with his bride not to mention that they won’t leave the groom feeling too sick to even remember his wedding day.

Camping is one alternative to the traditional bachelor party. You may choose to either rough it by backpacking to a location with only the gear on your back to help you survive the elements for a few days or you could choose to drive to a spa facility that offers well appointed cabins and five star gourmet meals. Whichever option you choose, you are bound to have a great deal of time relaxing and enjoying the company of the rest of the participants in your bachelor party. A camping trip offers the groom a quiet atmosphere to reflect with his friends on the journey he is about to take.

Sporting events are another great alternative to the usual bachelor party ideas. You may find that married life does not offer you as much free time to spend with your friends as you used to have so take this chance to enjoy a little bit of fun with your friends. Whether you choose to partake in a sport of your choice or purchase tickets to see your favorite professional athletes it is sure to be a great opportunity to bond with your male friends in the last few days before your wedding. It is wise to try choosing a sport that all of your guests will be able to participate in especially if you plan to include very young or very old guests. In this situation playing a game of football may not be the best idea but taking everyone to play a round of golf might be an activity that all of the guest can enjoy.

Still another activity that translates well into a bachelor party idea is getting a group of friends together to try an adrenaline pumping, activity geared for thrill seekers such as sky diving or white water rafting. The exhilaration gained from these activities coupled with the fear factor makes them a perfect activity for bonding with your friends. These daredevil activities will cause you and your friends to bond during the excitement leading up to the event as well as the thrill of accomplishing a new activity. While these types of activities are great for male bonding, it is important to remember that they are risky activities and there is the danger that you might be hurt during these activities. If this is your bachelor party idea of choice you might want to consider holding your bachelor party well in advance of your wedding to avoid last minute injuries that delay the wedding.

Co-ed bachelor parties that coincide with the bachelorette party are becoming increasingly popular as well. One common practice involving these adjunct parties is to have the bachelors and bachelorettes meet at separate restaurants for dinner and then join each other at a nightclub to cap off the night with some dancing and a few drinks. These types of parties can be a great deal of fun because they allow both the bride and the groom some time apart to spend time with their friends and then they reunite the couple at the end of the night in a chance for them to spend time with all of their friends without the pomp and circumstance that is likely to accompany their wedding reception.

The debauchery of stereotypical bachelor parties is not the only way to enjoy a fun-filled bachelor party that gives you the opportunity to bond with your friends. Camping trips, sporting activities, extreme adventures and even co-ed bachelor parties are redefining the traditional bachelor party. These bachelor party ideas not only serve to keep the groom out of trouble but also offer the opportunity to enjoy a new adventure.

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It’s really not difficult to ruin what could have been great sex. If that’s your goal, following these twelve suggestions will ensure that, over time, your spouse will become very creative in finding ways to avoid having sex with you.

Of course, I’m writing this article “tongue in cheek” to make a point. But I can assure you that these behaviors will detract from your sexual relationship with your partner. That’s because sexual feelings are vulnerable to being affected by so many other factors, such as self-esteem, expectations, criticism, emotional intimacy, and pressure.

So here are the behaviors guaranteed to be “turn offs” to your spouse. In quote marks is the faulty reasoning that gets marriages into trouble. In parentheses (…), I’ve added a counterweight to the faulty reasoning.

1. Develop a set routine for when you want to have sexthe same time and same place every week.

“That way, you don’t have to wonder when you’ll have sexSunday night at 9:00 p.m. in the bedroomjust like clock work. No use leaving it to chance, right?”

(How boring. Try adding excitement by surprising your mate with something slightly new and different.)

2. Follow exactly the same “plays” and “moves” each time.

“This way you both know what to expect each time. It’s just too much work to come up with different things to try, and after the honeymoon period, it’s not really necessary, is it?”

(Instead, remember a variation on the old saying that variety is the spice of life… and of sex).

3. Drink a lot first so that you’re loosened up.

“If your mate doesn’t like the smell or wishes you wouldn’t drink so much before sex, it’s just too bad. You can’t let your spouse tell you what to do, can you?”

(Consistent and excessive intoxication during sex is a big turn-off and could indicate deeper problems.)

4. Only touch your spouse when your goal is to have sex.

“Save your hugs, wet kisses, and holding hands until you’re ready to signal that you want sex. That way your partner will associate your touch with sex and know what to expect, get my drift? Cuts down on misunderstandings, doesn’t it?”

(Actually, the best sex can be the result of hours or even days of buildup with no obvious sign of sex on the horizon. During this time, any sign of affection - a touch, a hug, some compliments - can be powerful foreplay that builds to ignite passion.)

5. Expect your spouse to deliver the sexual goods because you’re married.

“Your mate knows that every ‘good’ marriage partner owes sex to the other partner as part of his or her ‘duties.’ After all, isn’t this supposed to be one of the benefits of being married?”

(When sex becomes an obligation, it becomes as appealing as paying taxes. Instead, if your goal is to make the experience breathtaking for your partner, you’ll never have to invoke guilt or obligation to get sex.)

6. Push for sex even if your spouse seems reluctant and uninterested as long as he or she says “okay.”

“If the verbal agreement is there, ignore the behavioral signals that indicate reluctance. If your spouse didn’t really want to have sex, he or she should have said so up front, right?”

(Pay close attention to your mate’s body language. That can be more revealing of true interest in sex than words alone. You’ll damage your relationship if you forge ahead when your partner only agrees just to get it over with.)

7. Skip foreplay and get to the major action immediately.

“It takes too much time to bother with all that extra stuff. Besides, both of you have to go to work in the morning and need your sleep. You can’t afford to waste time.”

(The truth is, there is often a direct correlation to the amount of foreplay with the quality of the sex. The better the buildup, the better the payoff.)

8. Criticize your spouse’s sexual performance.

“After all, you’re only trying to motivate your mate to be a better sexual partner. It’s not healthy to keep things in, so he or she will just have to listen to your critique.”

(You will get more satisfying performance out of your mate by praising what he or she does that you like, rather than the contrary.)

9. Criticize your spouse’s physical appearance.

“If your partner has developed a beer belly or gotten flabby, you’re doing him or her a favor to say how much that turns you off. It’ll motivate your spouse to lose weight and shape up, which will help him or her in the long run.”

(The rule is: use positive strokes to motivate your partner. Negative criticism will poison your sex life.)

10. Answer your cell phone during sex.

“You just never know; this call might be important. Anyway, what’s the big deal? It’s not like you’ll never have sex again. You’ve been having sex for years now, so why should your partner get upset with an occasional interruption?”

(Respect your partner with your undivided attention to get back the same. Minimize all distractions if possible.)

11. Get it over with as fast as possible as long as you’re satisfied.

“Don’t ask your partner if there’s anything you can do for him or her. Just assume that everything’s okay unless your mate says something.”

(If satisfaction is not mutual, your sex life will suffer. The simple question a couple can ask each other - “How can I please you?” - works wonders.)

12. Jump up immediately and make your get-away afterwards.

“The faster you get finished, the faster you’ll be able to get to sleep. There’s no time to waste just lying there talking. You can talk tomorrow over breakfast.”

(Emotional closeness is the currency of intimacy and you can achieve it by allowing each other to share honest feelings. Pillow talk after sex is one of the best times for this.)

Nancy J. Wasson, Ph.D., is co-author of Keep Your Marriage: What to Do When Your Spouse Says “I don’t love you anymore!” This is available at http://www.KeepYourMarriage.com, where you can also sign up for the free weekly Keep Your Marriage Internet Magazine to get ideas and support for improving your marriage.

Do you remember long walks, holding hands, and long nights talking about nothing at all? NO! You must be parents. Don’t fret because I’m on a mission to put the Romance back into marriage.

Mission #1: Time

Finding the time for your spouse after children is a challenge. You both care for the children and want the best for them. What is the best? I believe the best thing we can offer our children is T.I.M.E. - time with our children and time with each other. Show your children that you matter to each other. It doesn’t have to be an hour each day(Like you can find a spare hour) although that would be nice. Start out small with say 5 minutes of just Mama and Papa time. Let the children know that this is your time and you would like them to respect that. If they see you making time for them and each other they will see love.

Mission #2: Conversation

When was the last time you talked to each other? No, I don’t mean about the children, the laundry, or poopie diapers. Do you know what’s going on in each other’s life? Do you know what work is like? Is your spouse having a problem with his/her best friend? Does your spouse feel trapped? Is he/she depressed? Do they miss you? These are all very important things to communicate with each other no matter how busy life gets. Don’t feel like you are bothering each other because this is what marriage is about. You share a unique relationship with each other. You compliment one another. When one is down the other lifts them up and vice a versa.

Again you’ll want to start out slow because jumping into anything head first HURTS. A nice alternative to cold stares is a conversation jar. Take some paper and write down little conversation starters. Each day take one out of the jar and spend at least 5 minutes talking — really talking to each other.

Mission #3: Love Notes

Remember passing notes in class to the boy or girl you were crushing on? Remember the nice feeling you got when the answer to a secret question was YES! Sneak a note into your husband’s sock drawer. Tape a note on the fridge, in the bathroom, on the vacuum, above the kitchen sink - anywhere you know your spouse will be. You might even make a key tag for his keys so he’ll always see your note. Each day give your spouse a compliment and remember why you said YES to marriage.

Mission #4: Holding Hands

Holding hands sounds like an impossible mission what with children always around but if you utilize a little skill and creativity it can be done. Sneak in a handholding session while in the car or while watching the children play. This simple act let’s your spouse know that you care enough to take the time to connect both physically (touch) and emotionally (eye contact).

Mission #5: Long Walks

Okay, Okay maybe you don’t remember long walks with your spouse pre-marriage it doesn’t mean you can’t start. Ask a neighbor, friend or relative to watch the children for a half-hour each day or even every other day. You can even start out with going around the blockslowly. Take your time and sneak in a handholding session while you at it. Talk to each other or better yet remain silent. The key here is to take the time to slowly appreciate the presence of one another.

Setting reminders on your calendar or computer will help you ‘Keep the date’ at first. Start out slowly and increase the time for activities together. As your children grow up seeing you make time for each other they will respect that time and even give you that time - bickering free.

Sara Duggan is the mama of 2 active boys. She and her husband live in California. To find more tips and ideas on how to bring romance back into your marriage visit her at http://www.mommie-care.com and sign up for her monthly ezine.

The swinging facts;

Swinging, also called the alternative or ‘alt’ lifestyle, seems to be increasingly popular among mainstream, middle-aged married couples in America. With this increasing number of people who are into the lifestyle there is also a growing need for interactive ways to meet similar thinking couples. They find the internet to be the ultimate way to interaction. Distance is no longer an issue to meet similar thinking others because of the increasing number of lifestyle lovers who join a worldwide swingers community such as http://www.sdc.com.

According to swingers, the lifestyle can be a solution to (sexual) crises in relationships provided that the emotional bonding is still in tact. According to King (1996) one of the things that normally occurs in a relationship is sexual habituation. This will lead to changes in how we interact with our partners. It will take about three to seven years into a relationship when partners need to increase the levels of stimulation, to obtain the same level of sexual interest in each other. This can be a stressful point in marriages, changes of infidelity are increasing and the divorce rate peaks. Couples who find a way to reconnect both physically and emotionally are more likely to make it through this period. Therefore swinging may be a creative solution.

Scientific studies show consistently that swingers bond better in a relationship than monogamous couples. Another interesting outcome of research is that swingers are happier in their relationships than the average person.

60 Percent of swingers said that swinging improved their relationship. Also swingers rate themselves happier (59% against 32% very happy). Overall they consider their lives much more exciting (76% against 54% exciting) than couples who don’t consider swinging as a lifestyle.

The origin of swinging goes back to the 1950’s when California military couples gathered at so called key clubs. Here husbands tossed their keys into a large bowl and the wives then drew a set of keys and the owner of those keys became her sexual partner for the night.

The media soon gave a name to this key swapping and described it as wife swapping. This early swinging lead in the 1960’s to the opening of the first organization for swingers, the “Sexual Freedom League” at Berkeley, California.

later years up until the present swinging evolved to a widespread style of living. The uprising of the internet gave swinging an impulse. People from all over the world meet through the world wide web.

One of the most popular sites among swingers is http://www.sdc.com.

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